Thursday, March 17, 2011


I can not wait to see her in May. She is 3 and a half months old! Where has the time gone by?? I never knew how much I could miss someone.. I can not wait to see her smile, and hold her. I know that when she gets here she'll be pretty busy! Wish I had a video camera thing so I could hear her. It stinks not being able to hear her coo or to see her smile. But I love love LOVE that she does all of this. She is happy! Love and miss you May

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Making it the best

Scrapbooking is very therapeutic! I would post pictures of my pages, but I don't want Rachel to see it. Sooo looks like it will have to wait till May for pics to go up lol. Miss her, but I forgot how much looking at pictures of her really helps :)

Friday, March 4, 2011

Taking It All In

It's weird... I don't understand why some days it just hits, and when it does hit oh does it hit hard. Never do I regret what I did. My sister's friend Janea was talking to me probably about a week after I placed. She was telling me how incredible she thought I was. She gave me an example to what I did. "Picture yourself on the sidewalk and your child standing in the middle of the street. A car is coming. Now you can jump and hold your child so that the both of you get hurt (that would mean keeping), or you can save your child from any pain push them aside so that only you get hurt (placing)." As I'm sitting here crying, because it does feel like sometimes I just got hit by a car.
May I hope you know that I love you! That I would do anything for you. I loved you so much that I wanted the best in the world for you!
She is the most incredible thing that has ever happened to me.
I don't know how to really express myself. I put up this barrier, because I'm afraid of the hurt. I'm afraid of getting torn down for how I feel. Slowly my heart will heal, but I've been trying to heal it with super glue, and it is just not working. So now I know I have to do it the right way. It hurts but I have to.
I'm doing the best that I can right now. I bonded with her for 9 months, and now I don't know what to do. Sometimes I feel like I have no meaning in life. It's hard... But I know without a doubt that I was suppose to place her with the adoptive family. To not be able to see her a lot, and get to tell her that I love her, or see her smile, or hear her sweet noises hurts... a lot....
Sometimes it just feels unreal.. I wonder if I really did this? If it's all just been a dream, or I don't know.
I use to blame things on that I just don't have the time. I don't have the time to feel. But I'm changing that I know that I have to feel.
It feels like just yesterday she was in my arms for the first time. Oh how I wish that I could turn back time, to hold her, to the moment where I was holding her for the first time and she just stared at me. She stared at me for the longest time. I bonded with her so much. I'm glad that my 2 sisters and my mom were able to bond with her too.
To know that she is with this incredible family, means the WORLD to me. To know that she is loved by everyone around her brings tears to my eyes. To know that she smiles brings me to the most happiest I have ever felt. I am so happy that I found them. I don't know where I would be without this incredible family.

I love her. I love her so much that I was willing to get hit "by the car" and endure all the suffering.

With Love,
Justina Lynn

Thursday, March 3, 2011


I just barely started reading this amazing book it is called Restorative Grief: A Guide to Healing From Adoption. So far it is pretty amazing! It is written by Cynthia Christensen a birthmom. She puts Bible references in this book, and even makes it that much more amazing. I just barely began reading this, and I feel like I'm healing and healing the way I need to! So far my favorite part is Isiah 41:10 "So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." To know that Heavenly Father is beside me at all times, helping me through this is an incredible feeling! My goal is to read a inspirational book and this is definitely one! It helps to know that what I feel is normal, and missing my precious baby girl and feeling the way I do is normal.  There will be more review of this book to come!
A picture of May that I got from Rachel this Monday. Love it!! I really think she is the cutest baby ever!

With Love,
Justina Lynn